I kinda explored those possibilities the last couple days before uploading.
Your suggestion alone will not work because that is not actually called nearly as often as you may think.
(that whole c-side thing we were talking about earlier)
I only tested it with default actionbars, in reality I don't know if it does or does not work with popular actionbar mods.
Are they reusing the default actionbuttons or making their own?
If they're making their own why would they replicate the red-out effect unless purposely (in which case their authors can put options for it)
If they are, my addon "should" work for them as well. (I think I'll actually install a couple to test)